Sexual predator on social network

Following having been discovered, Daren´s live entered in a spiral of self-destruction.  His wife tried to stand by him, despite what she was feeling. She new the other side of Daren. She new he was not only the monster who lived on social networks. She wanted to help him to overcome that addiction, and stayed.  Daren though, was entering into a deep depression. He started to realize what he had done, the lives he had destroyed, the pain he had caused to his wife, relatives and friends. All the weight of his bad actions was falling on his shoulders now. He was awakening for what he had don, and was not being able to deal with it. Daren´s wife always stood by his side. She was worried with him and at the same time she had to deal with her feelings, the feelings of having been betrayed, having her self-esteem broken, and dealing with Daren´s depression. Also her was in the edge of breaking down. Daren started to have thoughts of suicide. Has time went by, he had more and more

When Cathy confronted Daren with what she had discovered, his first reaction was to cancel his personal Facebook account. The plan was doing as he had always done when discovered - make the character disappear. This time though, it was not a virtual character, who could be deleted. It was himself! Daren figure it out fast that canceling his Facebook profile was to admit he was guilty, and Daren was not yet ready to admit what he had been doing.  He reactivated his account and show surprise toward the accusations Cathy was making. He said that he was not understanding what was happening, that there had to be some mistake! And now the strategy changed - the best defense is the attack. Daren again closed his personal Facebook account and now had a difficult task ahead - telling his wife - his own version of the facts, of course! Daren Told his wife that he had met a women on Facebook that had friends in common with them, that knew the place where they had been living before an

While time was passing by, Daren became reckless, looking for more dangerous situations, defying his own  laws, just arrogantly thinking that he was smarter then everybody else and allowing the situation getting out of control, even being caught by his wife once again and swearing her that its was the last time, that he was really repentant and it would never happen again. Once more, the poor thing believed in him, and forgave him. But Daren continued living this double life. Noteworthy is that when his wife caught him, he was using a legit profile. So we can´t blame her for what was happening. She had no clue about Daren was doing. While Daren was still talking with Laura, he met another women. in fact this was a practice, talking and having virtual relations with several women at the same time. This time, thought, this would undercover him and change him for good. This women, to whom we will call Cathy, was from the Algarve, in the south of Portugal. Cathy was divorced and

It was summer. Daren was surfing in his fake Facebook account, looking for preys. He added women randomly. lots of women. They just needed to look sharp and Daren would automatically add them. He came across a woman called Laura*.  in her profile picture she was wearing a striped dress with many different colors. She was smiling, looking relaxed and Daren decided that he had to have her. He sent her an invitation. During several weeks Laura didn´t reply to the invitation. Daren said "hi" several times, started a conversation, but Laura didn´t reply. One day she did reply, and asked Daren if they knew each other, why was hi asking to add her, and Daren replayed that he liked her smile and that she was very attractive. Now you are wondering why on earth would she continue talking to Daren after such a lame justification. First of all, we need to understand who Daren "was" in this virtual reality.  During all those years when he pretended to be someone else

Time went by, Daren´s marriage was not perfect, but was a good marriage. He had a wife who loved him and cared for him. Daren tried to make her happy, but he was to selfish for that. He continued in the course of living a double life, meeting women on social networks, making them falling in love for the image he displayed, usually a male model or an athlete. He had sex phone with them. Did sexting. Shared intimate pictures, and made them think they could have a life together. Finally, after a period doing that with a specific person, Daren would either feel pressured to show himself, either on camera or personally, or his conscience would make him stop, and he would "kill" the character. This is something that really intrigues me. On one hand we have a sociopath, a sexual predator, who  doesn´t care for the feeling and the damage he is inflicting to his victims. But in the other hand, we have this nice guy, loved by his friends and family, who still had a conscience, who ac

Daren was now 26 years old. He had finish the training related with his church where he met a girl with whom he felt in love. After just tow month he asked her to be his girlfriend and tow three month later he asked her to married him. She accepted. Daren thought that thing would change now. Whit a wife he would have no need to meet other people. He would have no need to search sexual pleasure on the internet either. being married, he could have all of that - A friend, a companion and a lover. It was a new start for Daren. His wife was a wonderful woman. Smart, pretty and intelligent. She was very good looking as well. She had grew in a divided household, being raised by her mother alone, who had health issues. He father died when she was very young. So she had to grow up very fast, taking care at time of her mother while she was still a teen. When they get married, then went to live close to her mother, because she was getting worse. In fact, six month after Daren and his wi

As started during the tell of this story, Daren was living a double life. In one hand he was this sexual predator, who took advantage of women to have selfish sexual pleasure, not worrying about the damage he was causing to his victims, but in the other hand, he was this sweet guy, who was appreciated in his community, among his neighbors. People saw him as an example of good behavior and genteelness.  Daren was an active member of his Church. At the age of 18, Daren was already giving small talks about the Bible. At the age of 21, he was giving speeches in his church and in churches around. He was deeply appreciated by the members of his church but also by the member of the churches around. During this time, though, he was living part of his life 180º contrary of what he was preaching - he was immoral, drunken, using abusive language and worst of all, he was pretending to be a holy person, when he was in fact living according to the flash. During this period he met Michele and

After Xana, Daren was decided to never do that again, to hide is identity. Not because he regretted the pain he had cause to Xana, by lying  to her, making her believe they would stay together, making her thinking about leaving her husband to stay with Daren. He was not worried about the pain he had caused to her when she discovered it was all a lie. Rather, Daren didn´t have sex phone anymore.  Didn´t have sexual picture and videos. he was feeling hurt not because he was discovered, has e thought, but has he found out many year later, it was only selfishness for not having sexual pleasure anymore. So now he was back to the Chat room to find someone else to talk to. He was still going under another name and age, but this time he was telling right away his real name and real age. Daren met this woman called Michele. Michele was from Lisbon and lived nearby the airport. she was divorced and had tow kids, a boy and a girl. Michele was a chubby brunette with big breasts. she had

Daren was 19 years old when he made his first victim. He met her on the social network called MircIRC, One of the first chat rooms created in Portugal. She was from Rio de Mouro a town on the outskirt of Lisbon, and worked in Massamá, in a company of automation. Xana was very pretty woman, she was 33 years old, blond, 165 cm. She was fit and had big breasts. She practiced kickboxing. Xana was married and had a son with five year old. He husband was a big man who worked in a paper factory in the night shift. She had a car, a blue Renault Clio. Daren started to chat with Xana pretending to be in his thirties as well. He was a business man. Xana was spending a lot of time alone, in the evening. She was feeling alone, and unloved. Things where not going well in her marriage.  When they started to talk, Xana needed someone to listen to her, to make her company. Daren was that person. He would listen to her, comfort her and they would talk about anything, from movies to books and mu

It´s astonishing the number of women with whom Daren was able to engage in sexual activities, including sex phone, sexting, sharing nude pictures, etc.. Many of those women where married. Lack of presence of theirs husbands, fatigue regarding the marriage, being unsatisfied with their sex life or just for the thrill. In any case, although those women exposed themselves to the situations and allowed it to gt to the point of intimacy, we can´t really put the blame on them. They are victims of a sexual predator, hidden behind a screen, looking to have sexual pleasure from those women. How to recognize a sexual predator? Their are many small things that can raise "red flags" when looking at a profile.  For how long does the profile exists?  Take note of it has last then a year.  Usually this kind of sexual predators don´t last long before being discovered and have to change profile often, to fine new victims or even to go back to the same victims, under the cov

Daren was now 16 or 17 years old. His parents had bought him a computer after he finished elementary school. It was a desktop, not the top model one, but was a good computer. By that time, the phone company started to make internet available to the general population. Daren asked his parents to have internet at there place and they agreed. Internet was very slow, nothing compared whit the average traffic speed we have today. Its was also very expensive. Daren had on 30 hour per month of internet traffic, it was like 1 hour per day. And he started to access the IRC Chat Room. Daren had been chubby all his life. He wore big thick glasses. Had a dark strong hair. Overall he  didn´t like his image but was too lazy to do anything to change it. So he started to pretend. He pretended to be older, in his thirties and athletic. He was single and lived alone. He could do a variety things, from being a lawyer to being a psychologist or a businessman. he was a successful person in this virtu

From the time he started to study the Bible along with his parents, Daren truly changed his personality and behavior. He became a better son, a better person. But his conscience kept accusing him for what he had done, specially regarding what had happened with the nanny and the German girl. Now, at the age of 9, his parents where pondering returning to Portugal. And it indeed happened. When Daren was 10 years old, his parents returned to Portugal, to the same town they used to live before going to Switzerland. Daren used to fantasizes how things would be, how he would feel relief to run away from that place, where so many bad thing had happened, and have a fresh start, a clean page, a new beginning. This was what happened in fact for a while. Daren was living a devoted life to godly principles although he was very young. He was even criticized by his neighbors, mocked by his peers at school, even threatened by some of theme for having a different behavior, for not swearing for b

When Daren was about 6 years old, his father´s mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. At that time his father started to study the Bible. Daren remembers his father as having a spiritual inclination. He remembers that his father had Indus books. The pictures of Shiva and other good are still clear in his mind and he remembers to be terrifies by it. he remembers to see  the eternal torment depicted in those books, full of pain, horror and so many pervert acts. But at that time his father, although having this spiritual inclination, was not taking his study of the Bible seriously. It was more out of curiosity. And although he was not really interested continuing to study, he was not capable to say it to the people who where studying with him.  Daren´s mother was constantly mocking him, saying that she also was going to the church - different from his father, Daren´s mother didn´t have a spiritual inclination, her father didn´t believe in good and she only followed the traditions.

It´s worthy to get to know Daren´s parents better to understand Daren himself. Daren´s father was a good man. He was from a small village in the interior of Portugal. he was the firstborn of tow brothers. When he was six years old he started to work, as it was the use among the people in Portugal at that time. He started to work whit Daren´s grandfather, shepherding sheep and goats. Its was a hard job for a man to do, imagine for a six year old boy. He often had no shoes and many times would sleep above a creek white a stone as pillow. This last until he was twelve years old. At that he went to work in a restaurant in the town nearby. But the work wasn´t easier at all. long hours of work, often form 6 am to 12 pm. many time with no resting day. All his money he made he gave it to his parents. But being in the town, knowing other people, people with more secular education, with minds more open, made him also open more his mind. It´s worthy to say that Daren´s father was a clever m

The second nanny was nothing like the first, although she was also called Mia. She was older then the first one, completely different physical shape, brunette also, curly hair and glasses. She was a very humble and loving person.  By that time Daren had already developed bad personality traits. His parent felt guilty for the time they spent working so they allowed him to do what he wanted. He became selfish, self-centered and manipulative. He would play with the guilt his parents felt to make them do what he wanted. He was very stubborn and could be at times even aggressive. When Mia would giving bath to go to bed he would kick her and scream, and the poor soul would say nothing. she would cope with the situation. Sometimes Daren´s mom would come and beat him for doing this. And this was an extreme: either he could do whatever he wanted or in a moment of wrath his mother would beat him.  As I said before, she had a depression but didn´t know at that time and the changes of hum

As life was improving, his parents decided that it would be good to have a intern nanny to look for the child and do the house chores. They invited one of his mothers´s cousins, Mia*, to come over from Portugal, to live with them and take care of the child. She was a young woman, in her early twenties. She was a brunette, dark hair, dark eyes. Her skin was tanned. She was a typical eighties´s Portuguese girl. She was a cousin in second or third degree. But she had no principles. Just to illustrate: In that period in Switzerland, you had this small showcases with the newspapers. The door of it was not locked. People use to go, insert a coin and take there news paper. - Just as a note, there is kind of a saying about Portuguese people that we think we are smarter then all the other people.- And this girls was no exception. Instead of inserting the coin to pay for her news paper, she reasoned: "this people are stupid! Why pay if you can have it for free?" - This kind of m

When Daren* was 1 year old his father went to Switzerland to give a better life to his child and wife. One year later, his mother joined his father in Switzerland, leaving toddler Daren with his grandparents. It was an happy time. His grandparents lived in a small village in the interior of Portugal. A place where even toddlers could play in the street, and where all the neighbors know each other. His grandparents loved him very much and he loved them as well. He used to say to his grand mother: "my mother is not hear so, you are my mother". His parents missed him a lot. once his mother had a dream that he was dawning in the well his grandfather has in the back of the house. It was so real to her that she had to telephone to make sure he was well, and only after she heard him, she could relax.  A year passed by, summer came as well as his parents came in vacations. Daren was well treated with his grandparents but they missed him so much that they take him with them t

How does it start? How does someone become a sociopath on social networks? The answer is not linear as some might think it can be. As sociopaths and psychopaths in the "real world", virtual sociopaths or psychopaths have some kind of mental disorder. Most suffered some kind of abuse in their youth that made them to have a negative view on the kind of people who mistreated them. It can be a parent, a relative, someone close to the person when she was very young. Lack of love, low self esteem and the person´s own personality, and develop such anti-social behavior. Also recent  studies show that their maybe some physical structure of the brain that can make the person to have this kin of behavior. Of course each person, no meter how his life was or the abuses he suffered, makes his own destiny, and can choose either to fall into this ant-social behavior or not! The case that we will follow in this blog, is about someone who was in did abused as a child, but who for lon

We all use social networks to get in touch with friends and family. We use it to read news, make business and some even use it to find the perfect match. We all have received invitations to be friends or to follow us, from people we don´t know. Some decide no never accept people they don´t know personally, others have a look at the profile before accepting. Yet other just add anyone who send an invitation. What can be the dangers behind accepting the invitation of someone we don´t know? What precautions should we have before we accept friendship from someone we don´t know? In this blog we will try to show some small details who should have in mind before you accept someone has a friend, some red flags that you should not ignore.  At the same time, we will tell the true story of someone whom for years used false profiles to "date"  and "rape" dozens of women online. Just because it´s online and virtual, it doesn´t mean that it´s harmless. You can get r