Sexual predator on social network

When Cathy confronted Daren with what she had discovered, his first reaction was to cancel his personal Facebook account. The plan was doing as he had always done when discovered - make the character disappear. This time though, it was not a virtual character, who could be deleted. It was himself! Daren figure it out fast that canceling his Facebook profile was to admit he was guilty, and Daren was not yet ready to admit what he had been doing.  He reactivated his account and show surprise toward the accusations Cathy was making. He said that he was not understanding what was happening, that there had to be some mistake! And now the strategy changed - the best defense is the attack. Daren again closed his personal Facebook account and now had a difficult task ahead - telling his wife - his own version of the facts, of course! Daren Told his wife that he had met a women on Facebook that had friends in common with them, that knew the place where they had been living befor...

While time was passing by, Daren became reckless, looking for more dangerous situations, defying his own  laws, just arrogantly thinking that he was smarter then everybody else and allowing the situation getting out of control, even being caught by his wife once again and swearing her that its was the last time, that he was really repentant and it would never happen again. Once more, the poor thing believed in him, and forgave him. But Daren continued living this double life. Noteworthy is that when his wife caught him, he was using a legit profile. So we can´t blame her for what was happening. She had no clue about Daren was doing. While Daren was still talking with Laura, he met another women. in fact this was a practice, talking and having virtual relations with several women at the same time. This time, thought, this would undercover him and change him for good. This women, to whom we will call Cathy, was from the Algarve, in the south of Portugal. Cathy was divorced ...

Time went by, Daren´s marriage was not perfect, but was a good marriage. He had a wife who loved him and cared for him. Daren tried to make her happy, but he was to selfish for that. He continued in the course of living a double life, meeting women on social networks, making them falling in love for the image he displayed, usually a male model or an athlete. He had sex phone with them. Did sexting. Shared intimate pictures, and made them think they could have a life together. Finally, after a period doing that with a specific person, Daren would either feel pressured to show himself, either on camera or personally, or his conscience would make him stop, and he would "kill" the character. This is something that really intrigues me. On one hand we have a sociopath, a sexual predator, who  doesn´t care for the feeling and the damage he is inflicting to his victims. But in the other hand, we have this nice guy, loved by his friends and family, who still had a conscience, who ac...

Daren was now 26 years old. He had finish the training related with his church where he met a girl with whom he felt in love. After just tow month he asked her to be his girlfriend and tow three month later he asked her to married him. She accepted. Daren thought that thing would change now. Whit a wife he would have no need to meet other people. He would have no need to search sexual pleasure on the internet either. being married, he could have all of that - A friend, a companion and a lover. It was a new start for Daren. His wife was a wonderful woman. Smart, pretty and intelligent. She was very good looking as well. She had grew in a divided household, being raised by her mother alone, who had health issues. He father died when she was very young. So she had to grow up very fast, taking care at time of her mother while she was still a teen. When they get married, then went to live close to her mother, because she was getting worse. In fact, six month after Daren and his wi...

After Xana, Daren was decided to never do that again, to hide is identity. Not because he regretted the pain he had cause to Xana, by lying  to her, making her believe they would stay together, making her thinking about leaving her husband to stay with Daren. He was not worried about the pain he had caused to her when she discovered it was all a lie. Rather, Daren didn´t have sex phone anymore.  Didn´t have sexual picture and videos. he was feeling hurt not because he was discovered, has e thought, but has he found out many year later, it was only selfishness for not having sexual pleasure anymore. So now he was back to the Chat room to find someone else to talk to. He was still going under another name and age, but this time he was telling right away his real name and real age. Daren met this woman called Michele. Michele was from Lisbon and lived nearby the airport. she was divorced and had tow kids, a boy and a girl. Michele was a chubby brunette with big breasts...

Daren was 19 years old when he made his first victim. He met her on the social network called MircIRC, One of the first chat rooms created in Portugal. She was from Rio de Mouro a town on the outskirt of Lisbon, and worked in Massamá, in a company of automation. Xana was very pretty woman, she was 33 years old, blond, 165 cm. She was fit and had big breasts. She practiced kickboxing. Xana was married and had a son with five year old. He husband was a big man who worked in a paper factory in the night shift. She had a car, a blue Renault Clio. Daren started to chat with Xana pretending to be in his thirties as well. He was a business man. Xana was spending a lot of time alone, in the evening. She was feeling alone, and unloved. Things where not going well in her marriage.  When they started to talk, Xana needed someone to listen to her, to make her company. Daren was that person. He would listen to her, comfort her and they would talk about anything, from movies to books an...

It´s astonishing the number of women with whom Daren was able to engage in sexual activities, including sex phone, sexting, sharing nude pictures, etc.. Many of those women where married. Lack of presence of theirs husbands, fatigue regarding the marriage, being unsatisfied with their sex life or just for the thrill. In any case, although those women exposed themselves to the situations and allowed it to gt to the point of intimacy, we can´t really put the blame on them. They are victims of a sexual predator, hidden behind a screen, looking to have sexual pleasure from those women. How to recognize a sexual predator? Their are many small things that can raise "red flags" when looking at a profile.  For how long does the profile exists?  Take note of it has last then a year.  Usually this kind of sexual predators don´t last long before being discovered and have to change profile often, to fine new victims or even to go back to the same victims, under the...

Daren was now 16 or 17 years old. His parents had bought him a computer after he finished elementary school. It was a desktop, not the top model one, but was a good computer. By that time, the phone company started to make internet available to the general population. Daren asked his parents to have internet at there place and they agreed. Internet was very slow, nothing compared whit the average traffic speed we have today. Its was also very expensive. Daren had on 30 hour per month of internet traffic, it was like 1 hour per day. And he started to access the IRC Chat Room. Daren had been chubby all his life. He wore big thick glasses. Had a dark strong hair. Overall he  didn´t like his image but was too lazy to do anything to change it. So he started to pretend. He pretended to be older, in his thirties and athletic. He was single and lived alone. He could do a variety things, from being a lawyer to being a psychologist or a businessman. he was a successful person in this v...

From the time he started to study the Bible along with his parents, Daren truly changed his personality and behavior. He became a better son, a better person. But his conscience kept accusing him for what he had done, specially regarding what had happened with the nanny and the German girl. Now, at the age of 9, his parents where pondering returning to Portugal. And it indeed happened. When Daren was 10 years old, his parents returned to Portugal, to the same town they used to live before going to Switzerland. Daren used to fantasizes how things would be, how he would feel relief to run away from that place, where so many bad thing had happened, and have a fresh start, a clean page, a new beginning. This was what happened in fact for a while. Daren was living a devoted life to godly principles although he was very young. He was even criticized by his neighbors, mocked by his peers at school, even threatened by some of theme for having a different behavior, for not swearing for b...

The second nanny was nothing like the first, although she was also called Mia. She was older then the first one, completely different physical shape, brunette also, curly hair and glasses. She was a very humble and loving person.  By that time Daren had already developed bad personality traits. His parent felt guilty for the time they spent working so they allowed him to do what he wanted. He became selfish, self-centered and manipulative. He would play with the guilt his parents felt to make them do what he wanted. He was very stubborn and could be at times even aggressive. When Mia would giving bath to go to bed he would kick her and scream, and the poor soul would say nothing. she would cope with the situation. Sometimes Daren´s mom would come and beat him for doing this. And this was an extreme: either he could do whatever he wanted or in a moment of wrath his mother would beat him.  As I said before, she had a depression but didn´t know at that time and the chang...

We all use social networks to get in touch with friends and family. We use it to read news, make business and some even use it to find the perfect match. We all have received invitations to be friends or to follow us, from people we don´t know. Some decide no never accept people they don´t know personally, others have a look at the profile before accepting. Yet other just add anyone who send an invitation. What can be the dangers behind accepting the invitation of someone we don´t know? What precautions should we have before we accept friendship from someone we don´t know? In this blog we will try to show some small details who should have in mind before you accept someone has a friend, some red flags that you should not ignore.  At the same time, we will tell the true story of someone whom for years used false profiles to "date"  and "rape" dozens of women online. Just because it´s online and virtual, it doesn´t mean that it´s harmless. You can get r...