Sexual predator on social network

The purpose of this blog was to tell the true story about this man we called "Daren". Unfortunately, Daren is not the only one doing this, he is not the only sexual predator on social networks. It´s very important to stay alert to the "red flags" that might show up when we meet someone on social media. Don´t be quick to accept friendship with unknown people. Stay alert to the signs that might indicate that that person is not who she claims to be. Avoid getting emotionally hurt or even worse. There is a Tv show in the U.S called "Catfish", where people who pretend to be someone else on social media, not necessarily sexual predators, are put to discovered. Maybe you can have a look at it. It might also help you to identify fake people you are talking to. Always ask to see the person on Skype, face time Whatsapp call, before accepting to engage in any type of relationship. Remember, if someone claims to love you, he will manage to find a way to talk...

When Cathy confronted Daren with what she had discovered, his first reaction was to cancel his personal Facebook account. The plan was doing as he had always done when discovered - make the character disappear. This time though, it was not a virtual character, who could be deleted. It was himself! Daren figure it out fast that canceling his Facebook profile was to admit he was guilty, and Daren was not yet ready to admit what he had been doing.  He reactivated his account and show surprise toward the accusations Cathy was making. He said that he was not understanding what was happening, that there had to be some mistake! And now the strategy changed - the best defense is the attack. Daren again closed his personal Facebook account and now had a difficult task ahead - telling his wife - his own version of the facts, of course! Daren Told his wife that he had met a women on Facebook that had friends in common with them, that knew the place where they had been living befor...

While time was passing by, Daren became reckless, looking for more dangerous situations, defying his own  laws, just arrogantly thinking that he was smarter then everybody else and allowing the situation getting out of control, even being caught by his wife once again and swearing her that its was the last time, that he was really repentant and it would never happen again. Once more, the poor thing believed in him, and forgave him. But Daren continued living this double life. Noteworthy is that when his wife caught him, he was using a legit profile. So we can´t blame her for what was happening. She had no clue about Daren was doing. While Daren was still talking with Laura, he met another women. in fact this was a practice, talking and having virtual relations with several women at the same time. This time, thought, this would undercover him and change him for good. This women, to whom we will call Cathy, was from the Algarve, in the south of Portugal. Cathy was divorced ...

It was summer. Daren was surfing in his fake Facebook account, looking for preys. He added women randomly. lots of women. They just needed to look sharp and Daren would automatically add them. He came across a woman called Laura*.  in her profile picture she was wearing a striped dress with many different colors. She was smiling, looking relaxed and Daren decided that he had to have her. He sent her an invitation. During several weeks Laura didn´t reply to the invitation. Daren said "hi" several times, started a conversation, but Laura didn´t reply. One day she did reply, and asked Daren if they knew each other, why was hi asking to add her, and Daren replayed that he liked her smile and that she was very attractive. Now you are wondering why on earth would she continue talking to Daren after such a lame justification. First of all, we need to understand who Daren "was" in this virtual reality.  During all those years when he pretended to be someone else...

Daren was now 26 years old. He had finish the training related with his church where he met a girl with whom he felt in love. After just tow month he asked her to be his girlfriend and tow three month later he asked her to married him. She accepted. Daren thought that thing would change now. Whit a wife he would have no need to meet other people. He would have no need to search sexual pleasure on the internet either. being married, he could have all of that - A friend, a companion and a lover. It was a new start for Daren. His wife was a wonderful woman. Smart, pretty and intelligent. She was very good looking as well. She had grew in a divided household, being raised by her mother alone, who had health issues. He father died when she was very young. So she had to grow up very fast, taking care at time of her mother while she was still a teen. When they get married, then went to live close to her mother, because she was getting worse. In fact, six month after Daren and his wi...

After Xana, Daren was decided to never do that again, to hide is identity. Not because he regretted the pain he had cause to Xana, by lying  to her, making her believe they would stay together, making her thinking about leaving her husband to stay with Daren. He was not worried about the pain he had caused to her when she discovered it was all a lie. Rather, Daren didn´t have sex phone anymore.  Didn´t have sexual picture and videos. he was feeling hurt not because he was discovered, has e thought, but has he found out many year later, it was only selfishness for not having sexual pleasure anymore. So now he was back to the Chat room to find someone else to talk to. He was still going under another name and age, but this time he was telling right away his real name and real age. Daren met this woman called Michele. Michele was from Lisbon and lived nearby the airport. she was divorced and had tow kids, a boy and a girl. Michele was a chubby brunette with big breasts...

Daren was 19 years old when he made his first victim. He met her on the social network called MircIRC, One of the first chat rooms created in Portugal. She was from Rio de Mouro a town on the outskirt of Lisbon, and worked in Massamá, in a company of automation. Xana was very pretty woman, she was 33 years old, blond, 165 cm. She was fit and had big breasts. She practiced kickboxing. Xana was married and had a son with five year old. He husband was a big man who worked in a paper factory in the night shift. She had a car, a blue Renault Clio. Daren started to chat with Xana pretending to be in his thirties as well. He was a business man. Xana was spending a lot of time alone, in the evening. She was feeling alone, and unloved. Things where not going well in her marriage.  When they started to talk, Xana needed someone to listen to her, to make her company. Daren was that person. He would listen to her, comfort her and they would talk about anything, from movies to books an...

It´s astonishing the number of women with whom Daren was able to engage in sexual activities, including sex phone, sexting, sharing nude pictures, etc.. Many of those women where married. Lack of presence of theirs husbands, fatigue regarding the marriage, being unsatisfied with their sex life or just for the thrill. In any case, although those women exposed themselves to the situations and allowed it to gt to the point of intimacy, we can´t really put the blame on them. They are victims of a sexual predator, hidden behind a screen, looking to have sexual pleasure from those women. How to recognize a sexual predator? Their are many small things that can raise "red flags" when looking at a profile.  For how long does the profile exists?  Take note of it has last then a year.  Usually this kind of sexual predators don´t last long before being discovered and have to change profile often, to fine new victims or even to go back to the same victims, under the...

We all use social networks to get in touch with friends and family. We use it to read news, make business and some even use it to find the perfect match. We all have received invitations to be friends or to follow us, from people we don´t know. Some decide no never accept people they don´t know personally, others have a look at the profile before accepting. Yet other just add anyone who send an invitation. What can be the dangers behind accepting the invitation of someone we don´t know? What precautions should we have before we accept friendship from someone we don´t know? In this blog we will try to show some small details who should have in mind before you accept someone has a friend, some red flags that you should not ignore.  At the same time, we will tell the true story of someone whom for years used false profiles to "date"  and "rape" dozens of women online. Just because it´s online and virtual, it doesn´t mean that it´s harmless. You can get r...